The Trigger I Ignored For Years
And Why It’s So Easy to Lose Yourself Building a Business
It took me a long time to admit this out loud.
Not because I lacked awareness.
But because for most of my life, I convinced myself to swallow it, hide it, or push through it.
My trigger is disrespect.
Not frustration.
Not pressure.
Not deadlines.
Not difficult situations.
Disrespect.
I can work with many personalities.
I can be calm, flexible, caring, patient, and understanding.
I can give space.
I can give grace.
I can let a lot slide without reacting.
But the moment I feel disrespected, everything in me shifts.
My energy changes.
My body tenses.
My thoughts freeze.
My patience vanishes.
It feels like my nervous system hits a wall.
And for years, I made myself believe that this reaction meant I was the one who needed fixing.
I told myself I was too sensitive.
Too emotional.
Not professional enough.
Not strong enough.
I tried to absorb more.
I tried to tolerate more.
I tried to become someone who could handle being spoken to in ways that never felt right.
That never worked.
Because I was never the problem.
The problem was my boundaries.
The problem was the situations I kept choosing.
The problem was the amount of disrespect I tolerated before I finally snapped.
What I learned is this.
The snap never comes from the moment.
It comes from the buildup.
It is the accumulation of every time your value was ignored.
Every time your work was minimized.
Every time someone crossed a line you kept pretending did not matter.
This became very clear in my entrepreneurial journey.
When you build a business from scratch, you put your entire heart and brain into it.
Your ideas.
Your creativity.
Your time.
Your sacrifices.
Your energy.
Your growth.
Your identity.
So when someone disrespects the work, it feels like they are disrespecting you.
I used to tell myself to toughen up.
I told myself to be more patient or more detached.
But detachment is not the answer when disrespect is present.
Detachment is what happens after you have been disrespected too many times.
The answer is stronger boundaries.
Clearer expectations.
A deeper sense of self-worth.
And a willingness to walk away from anything that threatens your peace.
This is one of the reasons we walked away from our recent business structure.
The work was great.
The money was good.
But I was constantly stuck in situations that pulled me out of my character.
Too many people treating us like a tool rather than a partner.
Too many conversations that drained instead of inspired.
Too many expectations that ignored the value we delivered.
We kept the clients who respected us.
The ones who listen.
The ones who trust our strategy.
The ones who value our expertise instead of arguing with it.
The ones who understand partnership.
These clients remind us why we love what we do.
Everything else had to go so we could breathe again.
Now we are in the rebuild.
Not a rebuild of the same structure.
A rebuild of something aligned, respectful, simple, and authentic.
A business that works with the way our brains function.
This is where ADHD and AI come in.
ADHD brains are creative, intense, visionary, and fast.
But they struggle with repetitive tasks.
They struggle with order.
They struggle with pressure that feels restrictive.
They struggle with environments that do not align with their natural flow.
AI has been the thing that finally supports the way I work.
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